As a parent we would like to think our children are perfect in every way….with school, with friendships, with looks, with smarts, with talents……but in reality, most of us know that is not true. That our kids have flaws and quirks, but they are perfect for us and our family. We love our kids, stand behind our kids, help our kids and just be there to love them and give them support.
But we all know that ONE person who’es child is PERFECT in every way and does no wrong. That is what Avery is dealing with right now in 5th grade and I have not seen anything like this.
Avery has been friends with this girl since the first day of school. Our families got here the same time period and our families hit it off as we have kids the same age and the parents seemed fun and amazing people to be around. We would hang out on most weekends together and the girls did many sleepovers. But since the the school year has progressed Avery has made other friends. She has never outed this girl, but has tried to include her with the new group of girls so that they could all be friends together. This child was not having anything to do with that. If she could not have Avery for her own, then no one could be friends with Avery.
She has gone to girls in their class making up rumors that Avery said “this or that” about them and has physically pulled girls away from Avery as she was talking with them, putting her arm around them and saying “how are you doing? Lets get away from Avery and go hang!” Seeing my daughter hurting, I went to the Mom thinking we were close friends and about to go on vacation with them. Of course the Mom said this was all of Avery’s doing and her daughter does no wrong. I talked with Avery and several of her friends when they have slept over and we had a “Mean Girl” talk. They asked questions and talked about how they would handle the situation.
We went on our spring break with this family and instead of the girls coming together to talk, the girl made the situation worse. Then when the girls went back to school it because uncontrollable for Avery to handle and the behavior of the other girl became toxic. Again I went to the mother and she flipped out and went psycho. Not only did she accuse Avery of doing everything her daughter was doing to Avery, but we had proof of her daughter’s physical abuse (scratches and bite marks) and again she said that Avery did that to herself to get her daughter in trouble.
The mother now goes to school daily with her daughter to make sure nothing happens to her princess, though she encourages her daughter to be nasty. Avery and the other girls see this and question the behaviors and words of the mother. The mother herself rolls her eyes at the girls, will go to the lunch room and tell her daughter loudly “don’t sit with them, they are dirty and nasty girls” and has even gone into class last Thursday and asked the whole class “does anyone have a problem with my princess?! I think not, she is a great person and everyone loves her. So we will all be nice, right?!”
It was her daughter’s birthday over the weekend. The mother has encouraged her daughter to wear a different tiara every day this week saying “it’s my daughter’s birthday, we should all celebrate the princess!” You wonder why this girl acts like an only child and spoiled brat and that it is ok to treat others poorly, yet the mom encourages and participates in this behavior herself. You are way over 40, it is time to grow up. Raise a girl who is proud of herself and her accomplishments, who is a friend to all, who is willing to put others in front of her, who will make a difference in this world. By supporting this “Princess” behavior you are creating a monster!
It is NOT ok to bully! You are not alone, there are mean girls everywhere, but you have a friend in us. If your child is going through a rough patch, Avery would love to be a pen pal and talk with them and share experiences, laughs and friendship! Feel free to contact us! There is always one bully who likes to target the kids with the biggest hearts! ❤ We WILL stand together…friends do not do this to friends!